“Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of love, and then, for a second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire.” - Pierre T
A few weeks ago, I came across this quote whilst attempting ot help a friend going through a relationship problem. It got me pondering over the implications of the repurcussions of the next step they took. A break-up would have a ripple effect with an initial disequilibrium and then stability while the more ethical choice which is to sort out problems would be equivalent to compressing a spirng - the more you press, the higher is the recoil. The adults speak of "this generation" as though it is a taboo to expect a future from them because we differ in indeologies and need to learn the difference between infatuation and love. Perhaps they are right, but think about this logically, if you were in my friend's situation, would you go for the long-term stability and ending things with mutual consent on a happy note or a painful dramatic break-up. While answering this, keep in mind that all attempts to work on this relationship have failed and there is nothing more you can do. If you choose to continue, it'll be on the basis of your infatuation and not on the basis of trust, love and peace. This dilemma is why anonymity is needed.
A random act of kindness as it is widely referred to, can definitely change a lot of things. Sometimes all one needs is a kind gesture without ulterior motives. A geniune, sincere "Hey, you'll be okay, I have faith in you" can do wonders. Anonymity has its perks. No name is a blessing for those who are gravely misunderstood by their fellow peers and are actually despised, but have a lot to say. Humans have a weird tendency to not just look at a name but also all that comes with the names- the rumors, the history and all other things heard and made-up. Making a friend has become like developing a file now. You need the source code, break the firewall and deal with a hundred other hurdles, then you becomes somewhat close to people who acknowledge each other's existence. Anonymity keeps that in place. Rather funny, don't you think? A message saying "hey, I just hope you're okay. Stay strong, weakness is a myth instilled by haters." can make anyone smile but it has mixed reactions. Without a name signed at the bottom, you get an "Aww, I wish I knew you" and the same message to the same person with your name signed gets no reply because it isn't socially desirable.
Shakespeare said "What's in a name?" Humans today have just about managed to find the perfect answer for it. A name says everything there is to know about a person. Sounds silly right? I know it does but guess what, unknowingly you've been a part of this. You've judged a person based on the what you've heard about him/her. You have lost upon a great friend because your social standing would weaken if you both were spotted together. I'm not saying all socially rejected people are amazing people. I'm just saying that there are some who genuinely are while others are the reason the 'some' suffer. You long for a person who is there for you, who is there on the emotional front for the pain and not only for the parties and the crazy experiences and yet you push them away or look past them on purpose to oblige social convention. That's why I stay anonymous, to spare you the social drama, your friends the chuckle and me the ethical conundrum of contemplation, standing up for myself and helping a person I saw was in need.
A few weeks ago, I came across this quote whilst attempting ot help a friend going through a relationship problem. It got me pondering over the implications of the repurcussions of the next step they took. A break-up would have a ripple effect with an initial disequilibrium and then stability while the more ethical choice which is to sort out problems would be equivalent to compressing a spirng - the more you press, the higher is the recoil. The adults speak of "this generation" as though it is a taboo to expect a future from them because we differ in indeologies and need to learn the difference between infatuation and love. Perhaps they are right, but think about this logically, if you were in my friend's situation, would you go for the long-term stability and ending things with mutual consent on a happy note or a painful dramatic break-up. While answering this, keep in mind that all attempts to work on this relationship have failed and there is nothing more you can do. If you choose to continue, it'll be on the basis of your infatuation and not on the basis of trust, love and peace. This dilemma is why anonymity is needed.
A random act of kindness as it is widely referred to, can definitely change a lot of things. Sometimes all one needs is a kind gesture without ulterior motives. A geniune, sincere "Hey, you'll be okay, I have faith in you" can do wonders. Anonymity has its perks. No name is a blessing for those who are gravely misunderstood by their fellow peers and are actually despised, but have a lot to say. Humans have a weird tendency to not just look at a name but also all that comes with the names- the rumors, the history and all other things heard and made-up. Making a friend has become like developing a file now. You need the source code, break the firewall and deal with a hundred other hurdles, then you becomes somewhat close to people who acknowledge each other's existence. Anonymity keeps that in place. Rather funny, don't you think? A message saying "hey, I just hope you're okay. Stay strong, weakness is a myth instilled by haters." can make anyone smile but it has mixed reactions. Without a name signed at the bottom, you get an "Aww, I wish I knew you" and the same message to the same person with your name signed gets no reply because it isn't socially desirable.
Shakespeare said "What's in a name?" Humans today have just about managed to find the perfect answer for it. A name says everything there is to know about a person. Sounds silly right? I know it does but guess what, unknowingly you've been a part of this. You've judged a person based on the what you've heard about him/her. You have lost upon a great friend because your social standing would weaken if you both were spotted together. I'm not saying all socially rejected people are amazing people. I'm just saying that there are some who genuinely are while others are the reason the 'some' suffer. You long for a person who is there for you, who is there on the emotional front for the pain and not only for the parties and the crazy experiences and yet you push them away or look past them on purpose to oblige social convention. That's why I stay anonymous, to spare you the social drama, your friends the chuckle and me the ethical conundrum of contemplation, standing up for myself and helping a person I saw was in need.
