"Why?" we often ask ourselves this question. Why am I not like him/her? Why am I not smart? Why does this only happen to me? Why is life so unfair? Why can't I be a hero, be something to someone? These questions often kill our self-esteem and put our morale in a black-hole where everything goes to die. We change ourselves again and again and again only to please people. Why? To be accepted? To be liked? To be noticed? We change ourselves to give ourselves the feeling that we do belong to some people, that we are not alone. Is that right though? We change ourselves to what others want us to be but fail to realize that by changing ourselves once, we get prone to constantly changing and before we know it, we start burning in the pain, the agony of our desires and dreams that once used to exist! Changing is good, losing your identity is not.
Why do we close our eyes when we pray,cry or dream? It's because we know that the most beautiful things in life are not seen, but felt by our heart. Why so we fall? So we can learn to stand up again. Why do we feel sad? So we can know when we are happy and value it! Why do we face dark times? So we know the value of light. The little things we have but don't value, matter to us only when they are gone. Why? Because things in today's world are only cared for when they are lost.
We often ask ourselves that why does pain exist? When we say this, we are clearly overlooking the fact that without the existence of pain in our lives, we would never know the true value of happiness. Why can't one always get what he wants, why is it that everyone has to face some problem in his life? Why? Is it because no one ever values what they have until it's gone and becomes 'had' from 'have', or is it because we need to learn what it is like to be low and depressed so that we value those brief moments of happiness we manage to get?
Why does one find refuge in company of those not his age? Why does one refrain so much from being around people his age? That's what people ask a close friend of mine, he tells them this,"You made me an outcast for not changing myself, I went to those who not only accept me, but also love me for who I am and now you have a problem with that? Why? Just because I learnt to be happy without you and your group of the 'cool' people? Is that it? Or is it because you now regret not giving me a chance and being too judgmental." When we judge people and hope that they don't judge us, we are being insane because kindness in this world is far too rare to expect it from anyone, even yourself.
"A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer." - Ralph Waldo Emerson. I couldn't agree more. Everyone has a hero within them, just lack the courage to show their true abilities. Everyone cannot be a superhero, but can be a hero for their loved ones by doing one act of random kindness.
'Why?' This question is really powerful and highly important in forming the base of a successful life, we can question every aspect of our life, every action that we take and every reaction that we have. Why do we value people more than they deserve? Why do we give-in too much and get nothing in return? Why? It's because we care, sometimes way more than we should. We compare ourselves to people and try to be like them so we can feel like we are a part of something, that we matter and in this process, we ignore the people that we matter to because they don't matter to us. We do not think about the troubles the other person might have faced to become what he is today, we only see the victories, not the defeats. We feel life is unfair to us when we get bad marks or are hated by people but we tend to forget about the people who struggle to live every minute of the day, the innocent people who are shot down in riots for a crime they didn't commit, life is unfair to them, to us, life is bestowing its blessings, we just don't see it sometimes.
A great poet once said "We are all in the same game, just different levels. We are all in the same hell, just face different devils". These are words to live by. We are all hypocrites wearing the mask of innocent kids, when the mask is taken away, the world will see our true colors. We cut trees to make paper out of them to write "Save trees", we kill people who kill other people to tell them that it's wrong to kill people and why, why do we do that? We do it to assert our dominance over the weak and feel powerful, rather than helping those who are weak and standing up to those who are stronger than us. Just because we were bullied once, we bully the weak so that this chain doesn't end, so that we take pride in being despised by someone weaker just like the bullies we despised. We try to bully those weaker than us because we know we are too weak to stand up to those who bully us.
If answered correctly, this question can guide us to a bright and happy future, if answered wrong, it can ruin our life. It's easy to choose among wrong and right, it's difficult to choose between two wrongs or two rights.
Why do we close our eyes when we pray,cry or dream? It's because we know that the most beautiful things in life are not seen, but felt by our heart. Why so we fall? So we can learn to stand up again. Why do we feel sad? So we can know when we are happy and value it! Why do we face dark times? So we know the value of light. The little things we have but don't value, matter to us only when they are gone. Why? Because things in today's world are only cared for when they are lost.
We often ask ourselves that why does pain exist? When we say this, we are clearly overlooking the fact that without the existence of pain in our lives, we would never know the true value of happiness. Why can't one always get what he wants, why is it that everyone has to face some problem in his life? Why? Is it because no one ever values what they have until it's gone and becomes 'had' from 'have', or is it because we need to learn what it is like to be low and depressed so that we value those brief moments of happiness we manage to get?
Why does one find refuge in company of those not his age? Why does one refrain so much from being around people his age? That's what people ask a close friend of mine, he tells them this,"You made me an outcast for not changing myself, I went to those who not only accept me, but also love me for who I am and now you have a problem with that? Why? Just because I learnt to be happy without you and your group of the 'cool' people? Is that it? Or is it because you now regret not giving me a chance and being too judgmental." When we judge people and hope that they don't judge us, we are being insane because kindness in this world is far too rare to expect it from anyone, even yourself.
"A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer." - Ralph Waldo Emerson. I couldn't agree more. Everyone has a hero within them, just lack the courage to show their true abilities. Everyone cannot be a superhero, but can be a hero for their loved ones by doing one act of random kindness.
'Why?' This question is really powerful and highly important in forming the base of a successful life, we can question every aspect of our life, every action that we take and every reaction that we have. Why do we value people more than they deserve? Why do we give-in too much and get nothing in return? Why? It's because we care, sometimes way more than we should. We compare ourselves to people and try to be like them so we can feel like we are a part of something, that we matter and in this process, we ignore the people that we matter to because they don't matter to us. We do not think about the troubles the other person might have faced to become what he is today, we only see the victories, not the defeats. We feel life is unfair to us when we get bad marks or are hated by people but we tend to forget about the people who struggle to live every minute of the day, the innocent people who are shot down in riots for a crime they didn't commit, life is unfair to them, to us, life is bestowing its blessings, we just don't see it sometimes.
A great poet once said "We are all in the same game, just different levels. We are all in the same hell, just face different devils". These are words to live by. We are all hypocrites wearing the mask of innocent kids, when the mask is taken away, the world will see our true colors. We cut trees to make paper out of them to write "Save trees", we kill people who kill other people to tell them that it's wrong to kill people and why, why do we do that? We do it to assert our dominance over the weak and feel powerful, rather than helping those who are weak and standing up to those who are stronger than us. Just because we were bullied once, we bully the weak so that this chain doesn't end, so that we take pride in being despised by someone weaker just like the bullies we despised. We try to bully those weaker than us because we know we are too weak to stand up to those who bully us.
If answered correctly, this question can guide us to a bright and happy future, if answered wrong, it can ruin our life. It's easy to choose among wrong and right, it's difficult to choose between two wrongs or two rights.
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